Dominance vs Domineering

On the Rock

Commenter Wudang asked me to explain the following:

What do we really mean by alpha and social dominance and the man in the relationship being dominant and why is that not oppressive.

Matt King (King A) followed up with a link to Roissy’s post called Arrogance Vs. Confidence.  I think this post is spot on.  First, I would like to go through some of Roissy’s points:

Arrogant man – Gets defensive when challenged.

Confident man – Has nothing to prove.

Most have us have seen the arrogant man do this at some point.  He’s ready to fight, often at the drop of a hat, to defend his manhood.  The confident man, on the other hand, doesn’t feel the need.  He knows, without question, who is the man and feels no need to take it further.  I’ve seen this presented with humor, with aloofness, and with simple straight, no backing…

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Unprompted, complete and total submission.

What a great weekend. After a wonderful Saturday evening that included a nice meal at a local restaurant and couple of beers over a bonfire at friends house. I had the incredible experience of having my girl offer unprompted, complete and total submission to me.
For us this is not always possible, life gets in the way sometimes. We also have two teenage boys, that I’m sure would be scarred for life, if they saw Mom crawling on all fours in lingerie, across the living room floor, over to Dad. Lol.
Their is nothing more satisfying, pleasurable and fulfilling as when my girl drops to her knees and bows her head in complete submission to me, as I enter the room. Knowing that someone trusts you so much that they would offer their entire being up to you is so powerful. It’s even very difficult to describe right now as I type these words.
It’s not even the sexual aspect of it that I love, although the amazing blowjob, followed by an intensive face fucking was not to shabby. Lol. But seriously, it is those few tender moments, leading up to the sexual stuff, that completes me. It completes us. This beautiful girl believes in my power, strength and guidance, unconditionally. With her offering, She shows me that she feels safe and protected by her man at all times.
It’s powerful stuff.
The D/s relationship offers things that no other type of relationship can offer. I truly believe that.